Best Gentle Baby Sleep Training Books

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Gentle Sleep Training vs Cry-It-Out (CIO)

When it comes to sleep training your baby, there are two main methods to help with getting baby to sleep more easily and for longer periods.

The more infamous method is the Cry-It-Out (CIO), which involves allowing the baby to cry for varying lengths of time – the most extreme being letting the baby cry herself to sleep without any intervention at all. This could result in several hours of crying.

A more widely accepted adaptation of this method is the popular Ferber Method, also known as “controlled crying”. This technique essentially allows the baby to cry but requires checking in at timed intervals to offer comfort and reassurance.

The second method is the complete no-cry method, also known as gentle sleep training. At its heart, the gentle method aims to have no tears involved at all and is very much centred around attachment parenting.

Most Common (But Not So Great) Books For Gentle, No-Cry Sleep Training

These are some of the oldest and more well-known books on the market, the earliest being published in 2002 (No-Cry Sleep Solution). However, a quick search on Goodreads will reveal that parents of today are finding these books ineffective and outdated in their methodology, with all of them barely managing a 3.5 stars rating.

As a mum of three boys, I have read my fair share of sleep training books and found that, just as there is no one-size-fits-all sleep solution, books can be hit-and-miss in terms of effectiveness.

However, beyond the above mentioned old school options, there are newer and more well-received resources available to sleep-deprived mums. The books on the following list are based on more recent studies and understanding of baby sleep and how biological emotional factors play a part in it.

See also: [Best Free Resources] How To Get Baby To Sleep

Top 6 Gentle Sleep Training Books

1. The Tresillian Sleep Book

Available: Paperback | Ebook | Kindle

Baby Sleep Training Books - The Tresillian Sleep Book

What you’ll love:

  • Advice on twins and sibling issues
  • Routines for children in childcare
  • Real life parent stories
  • Getting back on track after disruptions, from illness, night terrors and early wakers to disrupted routines and travelling.

As Australia’s largest child and family health organisation providing expert parenting advice to families during the early years, Tresillian is most well-known for their Medicare-covered family centres that help parents with baby sleep and settling difficulties.

Their newly published book, The Tresillian Sleep Book, is a consolidation of all their gentle baby sleep advice and practical tips on settling baby to sleep.

2. Sleep Play Love

Only available on Amazon: Paperback | Kindle

Sleep Play Love: How to Love and Play Your Way to Better Sleep – For Babies, Toddlers, Preschoolers, and Parents

What you’ll love:

  • Parent-child connection and attachment theory at the heart of its approach
  • Gain an understanding of the inextricable relationship between children’s emotions and sleep
  • Simple tools to strengthen the parent-child connection and improve sleep and behaviour
  • Evidence-based sleep routines for newborns to three-year-olds

Born and raised in Australia, Sophie Acott (who now resides in San Diego, California, with her husband and four young children) is a certified sleep consultant, parent coach, homebirth enthusiast, and conscious parenting advocate. 

Featured on a multitude of news and radio stations such as ABC Radio and Sky News, Sleep Play Love has a small but loyal following on Facebook and is definitely a much overlooked gentle baby sleep resource on the market.

3. The Gentle Sleep Book

Available: Paperback | Ebook | Kindle

What you’ll love:

  • Debunking myths created by widespread advice on sleep
  • Practical suggestions are broken down into six developmental stages from 0-5 years
  • In-depth case studies on implementing the suggestions
  • Topics include the effect of diet and how to use comfort objects effectively
  • Lessons from the sleep practices of families in other cultures

Trained as an Antenatal Teacher, Hypnotherapist/Psychotherapist, Developmental Infant Massage Instructor and Birth and Postnatal Doula, Sarah Ockwell-Smith is an advocate of gentle parenting and founder of CalmFamily.

Instead of using common sleep-training techniques such as controlled crying and pick up/put down, The Gentle Sleep Book finds a delicate balance between the needs of sleep-deprived parents and those of the child using evidence-based approaches.

4. Sleeping Like A Baby

Available: Paperback| Ebook | Kindle

Sleeping Like A Baby by Pinky McKay

What you’ll love:

  • Stress-free, guilt-free parenting approach – feeding infants to encourage sleep, and gently settling babies and toddlers
  • Offers down-to-earth and heartening advice on helping babies to sleep better
  • Approved and recommended by the Australian Breastfeeding Association, the Australian Association of Infant Mental Health, La Leche League International and the Centre for Attachment (NZ)

From Australia’s most sought after and beloved breastfeeding expert and sleep consultant, Pinky McKay’s bestselling book Sleeping Like A Baby is the highest rated on Goodreads on this list.

Unlike many other sleep training books that seek to make your baby a better sleeper, the essence of Pinky’s book is building YOUR confidence in parenting your own baby. It does not draw a line between right and wrong but instead aims to help you find a balance in your natural parenting instinct and achieving the best possible sleep outcome.

5. The Happiest Baby On The Block

Available: Paperback

The Happiest Baby On The Block

What you’ll love:

1. The Fourth Trimester: Why babies still yearn for a womblike atmosphere even after birth
2. The Calming Reflex: An “off switch” all babies are born with
3. The 5 S’s: Five easy steps to turn on your baby’s amazing calming reflex
4. The Cuddle Cure: How to combine the 5 S’s to calm even colicky babies

Written by the world-renown American paediatrician Dr Harvey Karp, The Happiest Baby On The Block is recommended by other medical and healthcare professionals. His methods are so effective that he has appeared on many television shows and been sought after by celebrities such as Madonna.

6. Baby Bliss

Available: Kindle

What you’ll love:

  • Covers sleeping, feeding, playing and development milestones like crawling and walking
  • Breastfeeding tips and advice
  • Frequently asked questions by new parents

Known as the Australian Baby Whisperer, the author of Baby Bliss, Jo Ryan, worked as a Registered Nurse in paediatrics for 20 years before starting her own baby sleep consultancy.

Somewhere between controlled crying and attachment parenting, her methods greatly respect parental intuition. The reviews on Goodreads also suggest that the routines laid out in the book are easy to implement and less rigid than others.

Gentle sleep training takes time and patience

Personally, I used controlled crying with my firstborn and he was sleeping 12 hours through the night by three months old. With my second, I decided to try gentle sleep training and he didn’t start sleeping through until close to ten months, and even after that, his nighttime sleep was always inconsistent. He would frequently wake in the middle of the night for no reason and had persistent 5:30 am early waking problem.

That said, both my kids eventually fell into a similar sleep and wake pattern close to the age of three, sleeping from 7:30pm to 6:30am. So at the end of the day, regardless of the sleeping training you use, I dare say it will only have a short term effect, and I would not lightly dismiss one method over another.

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